Rejection Q&A

Q. Who am I?
A. My name is Jia Jiang (@jiajiang). I’m a proud husband and father in Austin, TX. I also own a technology startup called Hooplus. We are building a commitment management tool to help consumers and business to keep their promises, increase productivity and collaboration.

Q. Why am I doing this?
A. In 11/2012, I was turned down by a prominent investor. I wanted the investment so bad that I had dreamt about it on five different occasions. The final rejection hurt as if Santa Claus showed up in person and told me he’s not real, and then ran away with my gifts.

I then turned inward, and wanted to focus on building myself with the necessary entrepreneurial skillsets. My experience revealed that my fear of rejection was real, so I wanted to tackle it first. I searched, and found Jason Comely’s Rejection Therapy concept through FounderDating Forum. I liked it so much and decided to do it right away, and vlog it to keep myself accountable to going through the whole 100 days.

Q. Is it working?
A. Like magic blended with kungfu. If you see my first video, I was timid, apologetic and wanted to get out of there ASAP. Now, I can negotiate and even joke with each person.

Q. Should you try Rejection Therapy yourself?
A. Absolutely! Many of you expressed that the more videos you watch, the less cringe-worthy they become. That suggests even watching the videos might have some therapeutic effect. However, I encourage all of you to try it on some level personally, because it really works. Maybe you will run into another Jackie in the meantime.

Q. How should you do it?
A. You should develop your own rules. Here are the criteria I use:
1. They are fun/crazy. This is fun only if you have the mindset of having fun.
2. They are challenging but not totally unrealistic. In another word, what’s stopping the other party from doing it is the craziness, not physics.
3. They are something you want to do. When you get a ‘yes’ if it ever happens, you should follow through. Therefore, pick something you would enjoy doing/receiving.

Q. What’s next?
A. The journey just got started and I have 90 more days to go. Just because the honeymoon was like a dream, it doesn’t mean the rest of marriage doesn’t need to be experienced. We are going to experience this together, good and bad. Hopefully there will be more Jackies, Scotts and Roberts. But either way, there is no loss. That’s the beauty of Rejection Therapy.

Q. What about your suggestions?
A. Your suggestions for crazy requests are amazing. I wish you could see them all. When they first start to come in, I kept a list. But now, we are looking at three years if I do them all. I want to overcome rejection, not marry it. However, I will try to blend in your suggestions as I go on, because your ideas are truly ingenious. Keep them coming!

Q. So will you do any crazy requests involve romance?
A. No. I am blissfully married with a chubby 4 months old. No blog material, no matter how interesting, can undermine that.

Please note: I reserve the right to delete comments that are offensive or off-topic.

  • anothertexan

    i saw the olympic donut one and i was amazed at the response from the video so now i decided to wathc more of them

  • NKB

    I saw the doughnut news and was very pleasantly surprised. Lots of success to you, and thank you for sharing your journey! (BTW, did you skip a day or just misnumbered? It is 11, then 13 in your entries!)

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  • Yakezie (@Yakezie)

    Have fun dude and enjoy! The scariest is asking out the hottest women you see for men, so do that over and over again!

    Sam

  • LaTanya Sigee

    Offer to cut a stranger’s grass.

  • kns544

    Shop this as a book. People will love this.

  • Carla Matto

    Go to a very expensive restaurant and ask them donate a dinner party for a homeless group of six people. You could say its a birthday celebration. They would have to be allowed to go to the restaurant, sit and eat, and be treated just like a paying customer. If they agree, go to your local homeless shelter and donate the meal.

  • texasborn

    I was intrigued and watched all the videos. Rejection therapy! You do seem to be getting more confidence. I will probally watch them all.
    BTW: I have heard that one way to overcome fear is to try acting or improv… I recently went to a comedy improv place in Austin. t’s called new movement theatre on Lavaca and 7th. They do classes at night . If i find a link should I send it do you?

  • frankie

    You should go to a nice restaurant and ask if you can have a large discount.

  • Rita

    I’ve watched all the videos and it’s fun to see how much you’ve changed since the first one. Having just come through a huge rejection episode myself, your blog is helping me. Thank you and I’ll keep watching.

  • Yet Another Texan

    The beauty of your therapy is learning to be fearless which is not an easy thing to accomplish. When you become nearly completely fearless, you will hear fewer “no”s and more “yes”es. People can smell your confidence. It really is magical. So become fearless, Texas style!

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  • Connceted Isolation

    I’m loving your video series. Today I was confronted with a situation I would normally shy away from because of the fear of rejection, but I thought about your videos and it motivated me to follow through with it.

    • Jia

      That’s fantastic! I am so glad I’m not the only one benefitting from my project. If you want to share your story with all readers, feel free to email it to me (click on Contact). I personally feel sharing and opening myself up have been extremely helpful in building my character.

  • Vu

    I like your show. Once your 100th day end. what is there to do after? Is there going to be another series? Maybe 100 days with wife? 100 days with blind fold ? I don’t know Anything idea will help.

  • Reality

    I love Vietnam! My fiancee’ will be here (USA) in April. I want to tell her about your blog and success but want to share with her together, so I’ll wait until she comes. I love it!

  • josh

    ask to be a student in high school for a day

    • Maria

      I think that would be a great idea!

  • Gavi

    hi i am gavi and i would like to say that you are a great inspiration i am always scared of rejection but thanks to you i will begain to fear less and also i just wanted to tell you that as the daughter of a bussiness man i think what you are doing is great for your growth…also you should read the book called “the janitor”

  • Brent

    How do you hold your phone so that people aren’t immediately aware that you’re filming? I’d love to try this for myself and document the results.

    Loving the blog. Keep it up!